Looking for Consent or Approval

Yesterday I received a very sad phone call from a lady who was calling to ask for help with her 16-year old niece who had decided to run away with a 35-year old man with three kids. You might ask yourself as I do many times, “what in the world is she thinking?” Even though it is hard to believe, girls who are looking for acceptance and love and cannot find it in family and friends begin to seek elsewhere and the first one who comes along offering affection, they are gone!

This particular girl unfortunately lives in another country where it is not against the law for her to marry at 16 so therefore her parents cannot do anything about it. When they called to ask me what to do, there is not a lot we can do at this point except pray and continue to love them but the hardest thing is that we must love them without giving consent or blessing to their mistakes. Though the girl didn’t need permission to marry she wanted her mom to give it to her because she felt as though she wouldn’t be happy or that she might even be cursed without her parents’ blessing.

So, teens we love you and we want what is best for you and believe it or not we parents are very forgiving, we would rather have you at home where we can take care of you rather than out there struggling. Know that we would rather forgive you and bring you home and learn from the mistakes than to try and correct one mistake with another one. This particular mom wants her daughter to know she loves her but she cannot be party to something that will potentially ruin her life. I mean come on girls! What are you asking of us here? Consent or approval?

What do you think an older man such as this is going to want with you? I will tell you what; cooking, cleaning, raising his kids and taking care of him. And if he will leave his wife and run off with you then he will do it again. Besides that, of course he will be happy, why shouldn’t he be? He got him a 16 year old girl and she got a 35 year old, duh!

Girls, please remember that you will not find love and acceptance in a man! You must find it in God and yourself. That is the only way otherwise you will forever be beholding to that man and eventually your life will be miserable. Don’t be fooled girls, you want to find someone who will truly love you and cherish you and take care of you not use you for a maid so be careful.

Remember, you are worth so much more, you underestimate who you really are and what you can do, don’t go there! It is not in man or in his pants! Sorry but these articles are meant to be blunt, wake up and smell the French toast, reality sets in very quickly once you live together.

Sound off at the blog and tell me what you think……..is this girl someone you can relate to? Perhaps you need to get out of a dying relationship…..let me hear from you. Blog with us @ www.youthchosen4action.blogspot.com.

Signed,
Peppermintmocha@chosen4action.com